I feel weird talking directly to you (as always). Until I have looked into your eyes and established connection, this, to me, is an illusory sense of connection. Anyway… I’m imagining you, whoever you are, on the other side of the screen… Maybe I’m seeing you for the first time, maybe we have spoken before.
You can tell by my demeanor I’m not here for a superficial conversation. I’m here with a message I want to get through.
I want to tell you; you can be whoever is correct for you to be.
At this point I’m taking a good long look at you before asking: “can you?”.
Can you be who you is correct for you to be?
Do you have your own permission?
Do you have your own back?
Not to make light of external validation, I believe we need it. External validation though, it hits different.
If you lean on me when I tell you you’re good to be whoever is correct for you to be, what then if I turn? In that moment… That’s when you either have yourself, or not. (For many people it’s likely those moments that help you chose yourself.)
My question to you is:
That moment when someone close turn on you. Or when it’s everyone against you… Will you have yourself?
Gunhild Archer, counselor 